Absence makes the heart grow fonder- be it a lover or family relationship.
A sudden reflect about long distance relationship. In my first quarter (possibly) of life, I've experienced numerous of long distance relationships. Since young, we were apart with parents for 4 years; after 17years old, I've been keeping long distance relationship with parents and family and now, undergoing 11 months of long distance relationship with my love one. Nevertheless, I'm grateful that all these are part of my life, which intensify the colour of my life and strengthen the relationship connection.
From BBC: http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/couples/life_longdistance.shtml. It suggests that we need to keep communicating
- Staying in touch regularly is the key to surviving a long-distance relationship.
- Use a variety of ways of communicating - email, telephone, text message, letter, etc.
- Send little gifts - to show how often you think of each other.
- Make some surprise calls - make the odd call just to say "I love you."
- Send regular pictures - this will help your partner keep a visual record of what you're up to.
- Keep a diary - then share it with your partner each time you meet.
In fact, I've been doing all these to him, and less frequently to parents who have negligible technical access/time. In my case, a dairy is basically referring to my blogs.
Soon, its time to reunion. Not sure if I would ever overexpect the reunion moment? Hope I dont... I'm not worrying about family reunion as I've been dealing with it since 5years ago. Wao, it has been almost 5 years since I left home!!
BBC: Beware the reunion anticlimax
When you get to see each other again, chances are both of you will have built up great expectations of how fantastic your reunion is going to be. However, the reality often doesn't match up to the fantasy.
Many couples feel disappointed and frustrated when things aren't as they'd hoped. You may also find that rather than making love all day there are awkward silences or even arguments.
You can prevent this by making sure you've talked about how you want the reunion to be and recognising that the anticipation is often better than the consummation! And remember, it may take time to get used to being around each other again.
Absence can make the heart grow fonder when you use the time to show your partner how much they mean to you. [I'm sure we have been showing enough]
Alright, my fyp is also related to social and distance issues, thats why I have a little bit of thoughts.. ok..i gotta be back to my work again! btw, today, when my english teacher was assessing my project for the grammar part, she told me that the project is very interesting and great effort has been putting in, considering this is an individual project... How good if I'm gifted with good english writing skill, then I can beautifully present my FYP, which contains quite a bit of social and psychological part... anyway, both supervisor and english teacher have been showing great satisfaction on my literature review which is very very interesting to them (and also myself), seems not so much on discussion part?? Hmm...trying hard to improve the discussion part...
