曾经以为梦想遥不可及
曾经以为梦想豪华美丽
是阴差阳错还是上天对我的仁慈
我在没有准备下攀上了梦想的山
以为一路 风景优美 轻松写意
其实不然 牵肠挂肚 压力课业
一直埋头苦干 只为了爬到山顶
争取那份属于家人和自己的荣耀
只是 如果一直维持到达目的地的心态
我会 忽略身边美好的风景
那风 那云 那山 本是美丽景色
我的眼帘却只有那条羊肠小径？
奈何 那却是捷径啊！
是不是对课业影响不大的情况下
仍有闲情赞美那快遗失的美好？
我，又开始挑战自己的极限了！
我的人生，一次又一次突破自己的极限，该属好事。
挑战，是让人生充满热情和动力的基因。
Monday, 20 October 2008
Saturday, 18 October 2008
Friday is PROJECT DAY???
Friday is my project day. By right, I should be doing research or lab work for my project. But I always think it is just another rest day for me. haha!!!
Met Supervisor, a nice lady at 1130am. Discussing the direction of my project. After submitting Project Overview Form and Ethic Consideration Form at 130pm, I went Morrison to shop grocery,half an hour walk from hostel to there to get the rice, oat porriage, kiwi+plain low fat yogurt (this combination has become my favourite!!!), some canned foods -mushroom,tomato and vegetable soup (i dun mean to buy them,but its cheap! 28p for one, just for storage since reduction in price) and blah blah blah.
After shopping, grab the time to skype with him before he went sleep. Recently I'm really been stressing up, experiencing poor sleeping quality, been waken up in the midnight and it always happens!So I lay on the bed after chatting...... one hour gone......
Tought the Chinese (from china) friend who shares the kitchen on how to fry and bake pasta..I never bake before, cause I dun like cheese, but I tought her the way I think it should be. Hmm,I think it works. But never ask her how does it taste as I was off from kitchen after eating my KIWI..hee
Back to room and still dun feel like doing any work, cause have been working so hard last few days. Today, simply wanna take a rest. I know, I will have to work again, after dinner time.
The thing is .. i get some time to visit friends' blogs. Nana, laoda, H.Wah, H.Wen, Sister, jiaojie...... It seems like I have lost contact with them, I have been keeping myself in my own world...
Feel great to catch up with each other,and most of us have back to students' status after a year or so of working life.
When we work, we hate bosses and wanna study. When we study, we have no spending power and stress up by quizes and assignments. If u ever choose again, which one would u like to be ???
So, treasure your study life =)
I'm really still stressed up. but i will try to adapt and enjoy the learning processes, plus the support given. After this, I will never be the student again!!!
For all, work hard and jiayou!
NOW,dinner time!! ABC SOUP!!
Met Supervisor, a nice lady at 1130am. Discussing the direction of my project. After submitting Project Overview Form and Ethic Consideration Form at 130pm, I went Morrison to shop grocery,half an hour walk from hostel to there to get the rice, oat porriage, kiwi+plain low fat yogurt (this combination has become my favourite!!!), some canned foods -mushroom,tomato and vegetable soup (i dun mean to buy them,but its cheap! 28p for one, just for storage since reduction in price) and blah blah blah.
After shopping, grab the time to skype with him before he went sleep. Recently I'm really been stressing up, experiencing poor sleeping quality, been waken up in the midnight and it always happens!So I lay on the bed after chatting...... one hour gone......
Tought the Chinese (from china) friend who shares the kitchen on how to fry and bake pasta..I never bake before, cause I dun like cheese, but I tought her the way I think it should be. Hmm,I think it works. But never ask her how does it taste as I was off from kitchen after eating my KIWI..hee
Back to room and still dun feel like doing any work, cause have been working so hard last few days. Today, simply wanna take a rest. I know, I will have to work again, after dinner time.
The thing is .. i get some time to visit friends' blogs. Nana, laoda, H.Wah, H.Wen, Sister, jiaojie...... It seems like I have lost contact with them, I have been keeping myself in my own world...
Feel great to catch up with each other,and most of us have back to students' status after a year or so of working life.
When we work, we hate bosses and wanna study. When we study, we have no spending power and stress up by quizes and assignments. If u ever choose again, which one would u like to be ???
So, treasure your study life =)
I'm really still stressed up. but i will try to adapt and enjoy the learning processes, plus the support given. After this, I will never be the student again!!!
For all, work hard and jiayou!
NOW,dinner time!! ABC SOUP!!
Friday, 17 October 2008
Stress!
I dunno how do i destress during poly time?? Hanging out at FC2 and chatting with you guys? Write blog? Working? Eating? I cant recall.
I'm so stress here... Plenty of journals to read, on
1.dietery fibre-heart disease (group project),
2.probiotic (My FYP, individual),
3.5 a day (Dietery scheme in UK, evaluate this policy, gosh),
4.hypertention and renal disease ( i have not done anything yet but the presentation is at early Dec, my hk groupmate seems dun bother too><),
5.Steroid signalling pathway (the chim thing, have not found any journals),
6.Bioethic posters (not yet been informed how to do><)
7.Clinal nutrition and dietetics 2 Lab Report (2500words?)
All above due from end of nov to mid dec.
I'm really stressed up. In the mean time, I really have to catch up my molecular pathophysiology lesson...
After end of Dec, starting from 20Dec I have 3 weeks Christmas and New Year break and followed by the first sem exam.
Here is where one sem has gone and, after 2 exam weeks, straight away starting the new sem2. Sound fast?
I dont know. I feel I need to find journals and all of them are chasing me to read them, to understand and put into my all >2000 words assignments.
so is it normal to keep awaking in the middle of night??
神啊，救救我吧！
I'm so stress here... Plenty of journals to read, on
1.dietery fibre-heart disease (group project),
2.probiotic (My FYP, individual),
3.5 a day (Dietery scheme in UK, evaluate this policy, gosh),
4.hypertention and renal disease ( i have not done anything yet but the presentation is at early Dec, my hk groupmate seems dun bother too><),
5.Steroid signalling pathway (the chim thing, have not found any journals),
6.Bioethic posters (not yet been informed how to do><)
7.Clinal nutrition and dietetics 2 Lab Report (2500words?)
All above due from end of nov to mid dec.
I'm really stressed up. In the mean time, I really have to catch up my molecular pathophysiology lesson...
After end of Dec, starting from 20Dec I have 3 weeks Christmas and New Year break and followed by the first sem exam.
Here is where one sem has gone and, after 2 exam weeks, straight away starting the new sem2. Sound fast?
I dont know. I feel I need to find journals and all of them are chasing me to read them, to understand and put into my all >2000 words assignments.
so is it normal to keep awaking in the middle of night??
神啊，救救我吧！
Friday, 10 October 2008
Famous Places to go..
不小心看到香港同学的USB里有照片，让我想起，我还没有走这个城市...而他，去了很多地方...
著名的Angel of the North (the largest sculpture in Britain, 10th anniversay on this year), St James Park (2nd largest stadium in UK), Gateshead Millennium Bridge - the world's first and only tilting bridge...
这么靠近都还没有去，有点内疚ing..快点把基础打好，我要在周末去走走啦！
然后，再去York, Birmingham, Sheffield, Nottingham, Liverpool, London 等等..heezz..
给我多点时间 =）
11月一定要去玩了...哈哈...
快点把书读好，assignment do it on time...
I'm in UK!!! Study smart and play hard..tHis Is AlWayS mY waY..hahaa..
P/S: 教授今天给我去年他们的slides, go through with me, 我觉得好多了...所以会更努力的啦！不会让你，你们和教授们失望 =）
OOPS， 今天是我爸爸的生日，台湾的双十节，要打电话回家了.. 祝我的爸爸生日快乐，要健康快乐。虽然爸爸有我，就很开心了.haha.. 今年要怎样逗爸爸呢？ hmm...
Thursday, 9 October 2008
Switch or Stay?
hmm,first of all, i need to make another decision, yes, another one... to SWITCH course to Food Science and Nutrition instead of Human Nutrition that I'm taking currently.
Seriously consider it when I totally don't understand what lecturer is talking about, 2nd chapter in Molecular Pathophysiology. I email the Fd Sci and Nutr. programme leader to ask about it. Today, he replied me that I have absolutely no problem to switch it.
But, as I think further, this is my interest, and HE is right, I'm studying on WHAT i like, not many people can study what they like. Im lucky, right?
And my classmate is right (the hk guy, first time he took initiative to talk to me,when he heard I want to switch course), that is your career for life.
If I choose Nutrition, I can be nutritionist (perhaps not yet, in UK, you need to practice 3 years to be the FULL nutritionist, I think SG doesnt have the practice) OR perhaps I can still be employed as food technologist or any food industry as I have 1year experience + Dip. in Food Tech background.
On the other hand, it is unlikely for me to be the PROFESSIONAL nutritionist, if I switch back to Food Science and Nutrition, and the different modules are including Food Technology (those preservation, processes, raw materials etc), Sensory Evaluation and Pdt Dev., Food Quality and Safety (QA,QC, ISO, HACCP- I really dont like it though it has the greatest value in food industry in SG!).
Hmm, I know my decision. But it will really be a tough year for me, by studying the Molecular Pathophysiology and it lasts for a year! Plus, I think i will really score low for Bioethics, as this is oral defence based. No exam and it is your way of presentation and defence with evidence. Kinda psychology, an ethical scientist? This is quite interesting but can i deliver my presentation and defence in CHINESE? haha! It just too much chim terms and different culture to me.
OK, Im gotta be hardworking enough.. Even if the grades are bad, I have no regret, as I have chosen it. But I will definately work hard for it :p
I'm happy to be in this course, right? This is my interest and there are so much people NOT pursuing WHAT THEY LIKE.
Sometimes, they not even know what they like.
I'm lucky. I'm blessed to be here.
Ok, not thinking about grade, though it does affect my future... BUT its my interest!!
I'm going to work extremely hard for it. 8 months to go. It is fast and furious :p
Ok, must emphasis. Im following the direction to WHAT I like.
**CHEER UP that I have decided not to switch course and confirm FYP on Probiotic. But supervisor advised me to do literature review before choosing my focus on shelf life or acidity.
Hmm.. probiotic.. interesting, isn't it =)
Good, everything on track again. StaY, Probiotic and Molecular lecturer is giving me their 2nd year-biology disease, the previous year's slides. Just work hard...
I CAN DO IT :p
If I cant find job...Be shao nai nai? hahaaaaaa :x
Seriously consider it when I totally don't understand what lecturer is talking about, 2nd chapter in Molecular Pathophysiology. I email the Fd Sci and Nutr. programme leader to ask about it. Today, he replied me that I have absolutely no problem to switch it.
But, as I think further, this is my interest, and HE is right, I'm studying on WHAT i like, not many people can study what they like. Im lucky, right?
And my classmate is right (the hk guy, first time he took initiative to talk to me,when he heard I want to switch course), that is your career for life.
If I choose Nutrition, I can be nutritionist (perhaps not yet, in UK, you need to practice 3 years to be the FULL nutritionist, I think SG doesnt have the practice) OR perhaps I can still be employed as food technologist or any food industry as I have 1year experience + Dip. in Food Tech background.
On the other hand, it is unlikely for me to be the PROFESSIONAL nutritionist, if I switch back to Food Science and Nutrition, and the different modules are including Food Technology (those preservation, processes, raw materials etc), Sensory Evaluation and Pdt Dev., Food Quality and Safety (QA,QC, ISO, HACCP- I really dont like it though it has the greatest value in food industry in SG!).
Hmm, I know my decision. But it will really be a tough year for me, by studying the Molecular Pathophysiology and it lasts for a year! Plus, I think i will really score low for Bioethics, as this is oral defence based. No exam and it is your way of presentation and defence with evidence. Kinda psychology, an ethical scientist? This is quite interesting but can i deliver my presentation and defence in CHINESE? haha! It just too much chim terms and different culture to me.
OK, Im gotta be hardworking enough.. Even if the grades are bad, I have no regret, as I have chosen it. But I will definately work hard for it :p
I'm happy to be in this course, right? This is my interest and there are so much people NOT pursuing WHAT THEY LIKE.
Sometimes, they not even know what they like.
I'm lucky. I'm blessed to be here.
Ok, not thinking about grade, though it does affect my future... BUT its my interest!!
I'm going to work extremely hard for it. 8 months to go. It is fast and furious :p
Ok, must emphasis. Im following the direction to WHAT I like.
**CHEER UP that I have decided not to switch course and confirm FYP on Probiotic. But supervisor advised me to do literature review before choosing my focus on shelf life or acidity.
Hmm.. probiotic.. interesting, isn't it =)
Good, everything on track again. StaY, Probiotic and Molecular lecturer is giving me their 2nd year-biology disease, the previous year's slides. Just work hard...
I CAN DO IT :p
If I cant find job...Be shao nai nai? hahaaaaaa :x
Monday, 6 October 2008
Decision on FYP..headache
Indecisive...
Whenever there are choices available, it could be annoying too.
For FYP titles.. Lecturer given directions as below:
1. Probiotic and the shelf life. As I research further, probiotic is very beneficial to human body to create the healthy ecological environment in GI system and to prevent cancer to certain extent. However, the viability and survival of probiotic bacteria in foods are low. Thus, several factors like oxygen, incorporation of prebiotic can be helpful. If I choose this, I will work more on technical aspect? I wonder if it will too much away from HUMAN NUTRITION,as what I shld be focused.. I doubt so.
2. Probiotic and acidity. This is more "chim" to me and I dun find it interesting. Could be adjusting the pH on milk and culture the probiotic in to access the acid shock/stress response of probiotic bacteria. I even find out some journal did it by collecting faeces from panelist and analyse it. Omg! Though it will help to identify how the probiotic can survive in different pH medium.
3. Probiotic and raffinose. Searched that raffinose is oligosaccharides, found in sugarbeet. Lecturer is very interested to know how the raffinose can influence the probiotic bacteria in antioxidative aspect. Well, it is really no research has been done, and you will never know if this works. It is very risky but challenging.
4. Comparison of diet history of Malaysian and UK diet as suggested by lecturer and more relevant to my course of study. However, this is very difficult, to find 15 panelists each and need to really strict to ask them record all their diet for 3days. It is not an easy job to train them and make sure they do it correctly. The source of panelists is a main problem too. Very troublesome in compiling the data. But it is more relevant to my course compared with others mentioned above.
I'm so headache! Gosh... Stress ar...
I think I'm more likely to go for choice one-probiotic and shelf life as the sources seems to be more available. But kinda food tech based. Haiz.. I'm nutritionist >< but I could have more market value when back to SG to work with this as the FYP? Nutritionist job is so much harder to find.. haiz..
Any suggestion?
Whenever there are choices available, it could be annoying too.
For FYP titles.. Lecturer given directions as below:
1. Probiotic and the shelf life. As I research further, probiotic is very beneficial to human body to create the healthy ecological environment in GI system and to prevent cancer to certain extent. However, the viability and survival of probiotic bacteria in foods are low. Thus, several factors like oxygen, incorporation of prebiotic can be helpful. If I choose this, I will work more on technical aspect? I wonder if it will too much away from HUMAN NUTRITION,as what I shld be focused.. I doubt so.
2. Probiotic and acidity. This is more "chim" to me and I dun find it interesting. Could be adjusting the pH on milk and culture the probiotic in to access the acid shock/stress response of probiotic bacteria. I even find out some journal did it by collecting faeces from panelist and analyse it. Omg! Though it will help to identify how the probiotic can survive in different pH medium.
3. Probiotic and raffinose. Searched that raffinose is oligosaccharides, found in sugarbeet. Lecturer is very interested to know how the raffinose can influence the probiotic bacteria in antioxidative aspect. Well, it is really no research has been done, and you will never know if this works. It is very risky but challenging.
4. Comparison of diet history of Malaysian and UK diet as suggested by lecturer and more relevant to my course of study. However, this is very difficult, to find 15 panelists each and need to really strict to ask them record all their diet for 3days. It is not an easy job to train them and make sure they do it correctly. The source of panelists is a main problem too. Very troublesome in compiling the data. But it is more relevant to my course compared with others mentioned above.
I'm so headache! Gosh... Stress ar...
I think I'm more likely to go for choice one-probiotic and shelf life as the sources seems to be more available. But kinda food tech based. Haiz.. I'm nutritionist >< but I could have more market value when back to SG to work with this as the FYP? Nutritionist job is so much harder to find.. haiz..
Any suggestion?
Friday, 3 October 2008
10min blog
Utilising my 10min to write a short one.
Getting know the 2 new angmoh friends, who are my investigative biology groupmates. 2 gals, elder than me but both are quite nice. This project solely research and project, minor part of group introduction and conclusion while majorly on individual topics related to the main title.
I still trying hard to understand the Proper British English. SO, I thought I supposed to meet my final year project supervisor, individual one, at 1230pm(via email) but think she changed to earlier. So, Im meeting her at 1pm, alone. Other classmates have gone.
Right, it is about a week of schooling. Besides the tough Molecular Pathophysiology which is most difficult, not only to me, but other classmates voice their difficulties to programme leader too. Bioethics and Food policy are debateable, but quite interesting. The latter one is non-exam. Clinical Nutrition and Dietetics is most appealing to me, interesting!
Then the Investigative biology and final year project are very independant while latter one is individual, different from poly.
Right, I shall stop here to meet my lecturer. Hmm, labcoat £9.50 while googles £2. Haiz, must try to get 2nd hand thing... Remind me to ask seniors or classmates who may want to sell their labcoat =)
Cheers,
Nie
Getting know the 2 new angmoh friends, who are my investigative biology groupmates. 2 gals, elder than me but both are quite nice. This project solely research and project, minor part of group introduction and conclusion while majorly on individual topics related to the main title.
I still trying hard to understand the Proper British English. SO, I thought I supposed to meet my final year project supervisor, individual one, at 1230pm(via email) but think she changed to earlier. So, Im meeting her at 1pm, alone. Other classmates have gone.
Right, it is about a week of schooling. Besides the tough Molecular Pathophysiology which is most difficult, not only to me, but other classmates voice their difficulties to programme leader too. Bioethics and Food policy are debateable, but quite interesting. The latter one is non-exam. Clinical Nutrition and Dietetics is most appealing to me, interesting!
Then the Investigative biology and final year project are very independant while latter one is individual, different from poly.
Right, I shall stop here to meet my lecturer. Hmm, labcoat £9.50 while googles £2. Haiz, must try to get 2nd hand thing... Remind me to ask seniors or classmates who may want to sell their labcoat =)
Cheers,
Nie
10月2日 雨天
晚上1o点多，从图书馆回到宿舍的十分钟。
图书馆，依然开着，自助服务一直到凌晨。
披着厚厚的大衣，围着红色的围巾，那条你们送的围巾，真的温暖。
虽然时间已晚，但图书馆对面新开给学生的小酒吧依然热闹，还有在路上零零碎碎的学生踪影。
几滴雨水打在脸上，一手拿着两本厚厚的人类营养学课本，肩上背着包包，我匆忙地披上衣帽，大步大步地走回宿舍。
越靠近宿舍的门口，雨越下越大...
此刻，典型的外国留学生感觉特别强烈...
一身臃肿的打扮和手上的两本重几公斤的课本，使我更笨拙了...
幸好听到跟随而来的钥匙声，让我淋少点雨...
匆忙地回到房间门口，把包包里的笔记都搬出来才找到钥匙脱下大衣，换掉牛仔裤，才舒服此刻，这片窗镜以外的空间已被倾盆而以下的雨水镇服我，叹了口气...还好没变落汤鸡...
图书馆，依然开着，自助服务一直到凌晨。
披着厚厚的大衣，围着红色的围巾，那条你们送的围巾，真的温暖。
虽然时间已晚，但图书馆对面新开给学生的小酒吧依然热闹，还有在路上零零碎碎的学生踪影。
几滴雨水打在脸上，一手拿着两本厚厚的人类营养学课本，肩上背着包包，我匆忙地披上衣帽，大步大步地走回宿舍。
越靠近宿舍的门口，雨越下越大...
此刻，典型的外国留学生感觉特别强烈...
一身臃肿的打扮和手上的两本重几公斤的课本，使我更笨拙了...
幸好听到跟随而来的钥匙声，让我淋少点雨...
匆忙地回到房间门口，把包包里的笔记都搬出来才找到钥匙脱下大衣，换掉牛仔裤，才舒服此刻，这片窗镜以外的空间已被倾盆而以下的雨水镇服我，叹了口气...还好没变落汤鸡...
Wednesday, 1 October 2008
TO Nana
Nowadays, Do not need to learn hard for language, Google translation can do the job, relatively well!
I'm so suprised that you left "Nice article" in the previous entry. Seems like u understand and read it. I was wondering, is anyone known-read chinese person translated to you.
As I think further, and read HW's blog, It reminds me Laoda ever said google translator does good job,most of the time. So i tried to copy and paste it, and click "submit". I'm suprisingly the translation are translated accurately as high as 80%!
So next time i can write my article in Chinese freely and make u to translate it?haha...
Im so mean.
I will try to write some english articles too..but my english is not goood. haha..
Well, sorry for keep writing chinese, I should practice my english too...haha...
But now, can i use more scientific terms? The lecturer is killing me, 80% of his words are scientific terms, so I only understand 20% of it, in average. HAHA!
OKay, Studying signal transduction now.. later 3-5pm lesson is bioethnics, this sounds chim to me too..Talking about what is adequate in biological world.. I tink more on debate, I sure die. Cz while im trying to undertand their accents, I will be debated.
Right... The worst thing is my HK classmate told me, the cell signalling is EASY! omg... i...so .. stress..
Alright, enough of spending time on blogs and internet. Back to study... ><
I'm so suprised that you left "Nice article" in the previous entry. Seems like u understand and read it. I was wondering, is anyone known-read chinese person translated to you.
As I think further, and read HW's blog, It reminds me Laoda ever said google translator does good job,most of the time. So i tried to copy and paste it, and click "submit". I'm suprisingly the translation are translated accurately as high as 80%!
So next time i can write my article in Chinese freely and make u to translate it?haha...
Im so mean.
I will try to write some english articles too..but my english is not goood. haha..
Well, sorry for keep writing chinese, I should practice my english too...haha...
But now, can i use more scientific terms? The lecturer is killing me, 80% of his words are scientific terms, so I only understand 20% of it, in average. HAHA!
OKay, Studying signal transduction now.. later 3-5pm lesson is bioethnics, this sounds chim to me too..Talking about what is adequate in biological world.. I tink more on debate, I sure die. Cz while im trying to undertand their accents, I will be debated.
Right... The worst thing is my HK classmate told me, the cell signalling is EASY! omg... i...so .. stress..
Alright, enough of spending time on blogs and internet. Back to study... ><
"鞋理論" ∼吳淡如
吳淡如說：
「年輕的時候真的因為買錯東西，交過很多學費
但是到了現在，我已經能夠認識自己、了解自己,
知道什麼東西適合自己，
所以在下決定的時候就會很清楚、很確定」
吳淡如說：我真的覺得，女人尋找適合的男人
就像是尋找一雙適合的鞋子在年輕的時候，
女人買的往往是最華麗 最能墊高自己高度的鞋子
或許是高跟鞋、或許是恨天高
即使難穿也沒關係 因為妳覺得妳自己可以忍耐
但是，如果有一天
妳忍耐到拇指外翻、腳起水泡
妳才會發現，鞋子最重要的功能
其實是要陪妳走路而已
而走路是要往前走的，
不是要站在原地的
婚姻就像找鞋
標準一直在變所以，
這時候妳就會去找一雙很舒適的
會保護妳的腳的、會陪著妳一起向前走的鞋
而不是去增加你的高度，因為妳就是這個樣子
吳淡如說：
「但是這其中也有一個前提就是妳也不能找太醜的鞋 因為如果太醜妳就不會喜歡它」
婚姻其實就像每個人在找鞋而已
我發現自己從很年輕的時候到現在
找鞋的人格一直慢慢地在改變
因為你已經慢慢接受自己原本的高度
不需要靠鞋子來墊高自己了不過，
雖然這個道理聽起來很簡單似乎人人都可以領會
但是，吳淡如也坦承要充分參悟其中的道理，其實不是那麼容易
吳淡如以自己為例，和男朋友Simon鄧
其實在民國八十二年就認識，
原先只是朋友 直到最近這一、兩年兩個人才有比較深入的來往
那種感覺就像古代的文藝小說中所說的『過盡千帆皆不是』
你（妳）會突然發現好女人（男人）還是在你（妳）的身邊
他（她）也許不是最漂亮的鞋，而是一雙很舒服、能走長久的鞋∼
吳淡如說：「我男朋友對我的所有態度
永遠是：『我可以為妳做什麼？』
我後來才覺得
原來這才是人間最稀罕的一種品質」
我真的是後來才發現
像這種從台北載妳到高雄 都叫做『順路』的人
而且他自己有他自己的工作原則、價值觀、人生觀
他不會嫉妒妳的成就，也不會嫉妒妳賺的錢
願意對妳的一切樂觀其成對任何妳想做的各種實驗，永遠都不加置諱
因為那不關他的事，這是妳自己的選擇
老實跟你說，這樣的人還真少
正如吳淡如的一篇文章中所說的：
「沒有一種幸福的背後不站著一個曾經咬緊牙根的堅定靈魂」
吳淡如如今對生活和人生的了悟
其實也經過一番寒風徹骨
從來沒有在人前掉過一滴眼淚的吳淡如在看到弟弟的字跡那一剎那，還是當場哭了起來
弟弟的離開對我的人生，其實影響很大即使是我後來跑去奧修社區
在做一些 meditation（冥想）的時候，都還是會放聲大哭
表示你的那種悲傷的能量還是在漸漸釋放之中弟弟的離開，
第一當然是讓我體會到人生無常
第二是讓我了解，人生的快樂和不快樂
真的是掌握在自己手中
跟你原先擁有的資質完全無關
我開始看見人有無限可能，我不是只能做這些事情」
「就是我一定要把人生過得加倍精采該玩的一定替你去玩；
該看的花該看的動物，都幫你去看；
該償還的，我也幫你償還耳邊響起的
也正是吳淡如的那句話： 『過盡千帆皆不是』
你（妳）會突然發現好女人（男人）還是在你（妳）的身邊
他（她）也許不是最漂亮的鞋，而是一雙很舒服、能走長久的鞋∼
祝福大家都能找到一雙適合自己.很舒服.能走長久的鞋.
若是鞋子已經穿在腳上.可能不太舒服.也不太好走...
我的想法是... 不妨多忍讓一下.多協調一下.試著走一段時間....
經過磨合.調整....穿起來自然會舒服些..
如果...不能舒服些...嘿嘿....要踢掉.要換鞋.要光腳...由你決定囉!
「年輕的時候真的因為買錯東西，交過很多學費
但是到了現在，我已經能夠認識自己、了解自己,
知道什麼東西適合自己，
所以在下決定的時候就會很清楚、很確定」
吳淡如說：我真的覺得，女人尋找適合的男人
就像是尋找一雙適合的鞋子在年輕的時候，
女人買的往往是最華麗 最能墊高自己高度的鞋子
或許是高跟鞋、或許是恨天高
即使難穿也沒關係 因為妳覺得妳自己可以忍耐
但是，如果有一天
妳忍耐到拇指外翻、腳起水泡
妳才會發現，鞋子最重要的功能
其實是要陪妳走路而已
而走路是要往前走的，
不是要站在原地的
婚姻就像找鞋
標準一直在變所以，
這時候妳就會去找一雙很舒適的
會保護妳的腳的、會陪著妳一起向前走的鞋
而不是去增加你的高度，因為妳就是這個樣子
吳淡如說：
「但是這其中也有一個前提就是妳也不能找太醜的鞋 因為如果太醜妳就不會喜歡它」
婚姻其實就像每個人在找鞋而已
我發現自己從很年輕的時候到現在
找鞋的人格一直慢慢地在改變
因為你已經慢慢接受自己原本的高度
不需要靠鞋子來墊高自己了不過，
雖然這個道理聽起來很簡單似乎人人都可以領會
但是，吳淡如也坦承要充分參悟其中的道理，其實不是那麼容易
吳淡如以自己為例，和男朋友Simon鄧
其實在民國八十二年就認識，
原先只是朋友 直到最近這一、兩年兩個人才有比較深入的來往
那種感覺就像古代的文藝小說中所說的『過盡千帆皆不是』
你（妳）會突然發現好女人（男人）還是在你（妳）的身邊
他（她）也許不是最漂亮的鞋，而是一雙很舒服、能走長久的鞋∼
吳淡如說：「我男朋友對我的所有態度
永遠是：『我可以為妳做什麼？』
我後來才覺得
原來這才是人間最稀罕的一種品質」
我真的是後來才發現
像這種從台北載妳到高雄 都叫做『順路』的人
而且他自己有他自己的工作原則、價值觀、人生觀
他不會嫉妒妳的成就，也不會嫉妒妳賺的錢
願意對妳的一切樂觀其成對任何妳想做的各種實驗，永遠都不加置諱
因為那不關他的事，這是妳自己的選擇
老實跟你說，這樣的人還真少
正如吳淡如的一篇文章中所說的：
「沒有一種幸福的背後不站著一個曾經咬緊牙根的堅定靈魂」
吳淡如如今對生活和人生的了悟
其實也經過一番寒風徹骨
從來沒有在人前掉過一滴眼淚的吳淡如在看到弟弟的字跡那一剎那，還是當場哭了起來
弟弟的離開對我的人生，其實影響很大即使是我後來跑去奧修社區
在做一些 meditation（冥想）的時候，都還是會放聲大哭
表示你的那種悲傷的能量還是在漸漸釋放之中弟弟的離開，
第一當然是讓我體會到人生無常
第二是讓我了解，人生的快樂和不快樂
真的是掌握在自己手中
跟你原先擁有的資質完全無關
我開始看見人有無限可能，我不是只能做這些事情」
「就是我一定要把人生過得加倍精采該玩的一定替你去玩；
該看的花該看的動物，都幫你去看；
該償還的，我也幫你償還耳邊響起的
也正是吳淡如的那句話： 『過盡千帆皆不是』
你（妳）會突然發現好女人（男人）還是在你（妳）的身邊
他（她）也許不是最漂亮的鞋，而是一雙很舒服、能走長久的鞋∼
祝福大家都能找到一雙適合自己.很舒服.能走長久的鞋.
若是鞋子已經穿在腳上.可能不太舒服.也不太好走...
我的想法是... 不妨多忍讓一下.多協調一下.試著走一段時間....
經過磨合.調整....穿起來自然會舒服些..
如果...不能舒服些...嘿嘿....要踢掉.要換鞋.要光腳...由你決定囉!
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